The Future of Relationships - with Dr. Marc Gafni
Why Soul Mate is not the answer. Course starts June 8th
🧭 A live online course with Dr. Marc Gafni
🗓️ Begins June 8
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At the very core of our lives is relationship. The measure of a good life is the answer to the question: Am I in great relationship?
Am I in great relationship to myself?
Am I in great relationship to reality?
Am I in great relationship with my beloved, with my circle of beloveds?
Reality is relationship.
It's not a psychological issue. It's the structure of reality.
So here it is. Let's get down to first principles and first value. At the very core of our lives—and the Archimedean lever that has the capacity, for the first time, to accomplish the transformation we've all been so desperate to achieve—is relationship.
And yet, after all the courses, all the engagements and study... somehow, you and I know, right? It hasn't quite happened.
So why?
Because we're not going in the right door.
Relationship is not a by-product. Relationship is the path.
Relationship is both the path and the destination.
And in true reality, there's no split between them.
The Structure of Reality
One: Reality is relationship.
Two: Reality is evolution.
Those are structural facts.
If you look at the deepest scientific structures, for example, a set of papers issued by NASA on the shared structures of cosmos, the papers disclose that the shared principle of reality is what they call the connectivity principle.
What they mean is: relationship.
Reality is evolution.
Reality is relationship.
Reality is the evolution of relationships.
That’s the tripartite structure.
That’s the tripartite jeweled notion of reality.
Relationship Has a Narrative Arc
Four: Relationship has a narrative arc.
Five: In the narrative arc of relationship, there’s always crisis.
Crisis is not a bug in the system. No—crisis is a feature. It’s the structure of reality, all the way up and all the way down the evolutionary chain.
Six: The crisis of relationship can only be solved at a higher level of relationship.
Seven: By relationship, we mean intimacy.
Intimacy means the movement toward larger wholeness, which is the right relationship between parts.
So every crisis of relationship is a crisis of intimacy.
Remember Albert Einstein’s famous citation:
A crisis at one level of consciousness can only be solved by up-leveling to a higher level of consciousness.
But that’s just an elliptical way of saying: relationship.
Eight: The higher level of consciousness is a higher level of relationship.
Nine: Every Crisis Is a Crisis of Intimacy
Every crisis is a crisis of relationship.
Every crisis is a crisis of intimacy.
Which means I can’t actually solve the crisis. I can’t get to that place where crisis becomes birth, I can’t birth the emergent self that’s yearning to be born, without which I will have no satisfaction, which is the very purpose and telos of my life—I cannot do that without birthing a new level of relationship—
In every personal relationship, in my relationship to myself, to reality.
Only the birth of a new level of relationship can take me to the next step.
And I can’t birth that new level until I have a vision.
Until I can feel it.
Until I can articulate it.
Until I can reach for it.
I’ve got to reach for it.
I’ve got to imagine it.
I’ve got to see it.
The Future of Relationships
That’s what we’re going to do in these three weeks together. I am almost quavering—or trembling is maybe a better word—with excitement about these three weeks. We’re going to imagine, in the most practical, grounded, and yet largest way—the most metavisioned way—the future of relationships.
That’s what this is about.
Your relationship.
Mine.
Between beloveds.
So if you’re in a relationship of any kind—whether it’s with a friend, a colleague, a classical beloved, a post-classical beloved—any form...
And if you’re not in a relationship of any form—well then for sure come.
Because this is a place where we’re going to get so specific and yet so broad, so personal and so cosmic. And we’re going to literally—together, with Her grace—participate directly in a fundamental evolution of the source code of culture and consciousness.
With humility.
With tenderness.
With fierceness.
We’re going to evolve the very source code of culture and consciousness:
The evolution of love.
To articulate, together, the future of relationships.
For Those Who Want to Go Deeper
If you want to do a little pre-reading, we’ve got a couple of books.
The first book, just published by World Philosophy and Religion Press (a sister to Parallel Express—you should always look at them, they’re doing exciting things), is called:
Evolution of Love from Quarks to Culture: The Rise of Evolutionary Relationships in Response to the Meta-CrisisThe second book, just in case you need a doorstopper, is:
Whole Mate: The Future of Relationships
And I’m just literally—whatever word—quavering, trembling, quaking with excitement for this coming together.
So—oh my God.
Let’s do this.
I can’t wait to be there with you.
Dr. Marc Gafni